Assisted Dying for the Terminally ill.

Yesterday evening i watched Simon's Choice. A programme about a man with Motor Neuron Disease (MND) who choice to end his suffering and show it on a documentary.
I have had a family member who passed away from Motor Neuron Disease. It really is a horrible disease.

Before you read this post, please understand i ONLY support assisted dying in those who have terminal illnesses. If you are feeling suicidal please click here Samaritans
Remember it might be pouring with rain today, but tomorrow could be wonderful. The world is a beautiful place, You're beautiful.

I fully support that the choice of dying with dignity should be there for all who are suffering from a terminal illness. I cannot understand those who say that they should fight till the end...or that it's just plain wrong (giving no proper explanation)..or that god decides when we live and when we die. Seriously? What about those of us who don't believe there is a god? Should we have to suffer just because a bible basher says "taking ones life is a sin" ? and seriously even if you believed in god, do you honestly think he would want people to suffer needlessly? Really? ....Nice god you have there.


Humans are such a caring species caring when it comes to our pets. We love them, hug them and when we are made aware that they are suffering, in pain and that it won't improve we are given the advice that it is much kinder to end their suffering. To free them of their pain. I would like to think that most of us wouldn't want to see little "fluffy" or "fido" suffer so we take that compassionate caring choice of allowing them to pass peacefully, sometimes with us by their sides, giving them that comfort before they pass on from this world. Yet when it comes to people it appears like it's a whole different ball game. Of course i am sure that there are many people in the world who wouldn't want/consider the option of assisted dying when terminally ill but that's good too, that's their choice. However we do have to remember that not everyone wants to put up with suffering in their final few years/months/days. So for them........Assisted dying should be their choice.

People using this choice shouldn't have to travel to another country, a more compassionate country. We should have control of our lives, not just when we are fit and healthy but when we are dying from something terminal. Dying a painful death. Then we should have the choice, the choice to end our suffering and the chance to spend some relief filled final days with our loved ones, having a proper chance to say our goodbyes.

My Excel clothing wishlist

I recently spotted a clothes website that i hadn't come across before and they are running a wishlist competition so i couldn't resist especially as they have so many lovely items. Honestly i think i must of spent about over an hour just browsing.

Here is the link if you want to check it out and do some summer shopping or browsing yourself! :)

Excel Clothing


After a good browsing session these would most definitely be at the top of my wishlist.

The Almost Famous Floral Skirt Sleeveless Dress With Tie Waist

 I love this as I'm really into floral despite my unnatural love of the colour black. Plus it's elegant, has a vintage look and seems like it would be very flattering.

VW Santa Monica bowling bag

Now i have a deep love of bags. Especially bags that can fit all my wonderful must have pieces of junk...Sorry i mean important "you never know when you will need this" items. I love the size, lines, the colour and of course the brand of this gorgeous bag.

 Michael Kor Rose Gold MK5128 Chronograph Watch

Now i cannot imagine any female not wanting this gorgeous Michael Kor's watch among her collection. I love everything about it, from the watch face to the gorgeous colour.

Elia B SPECTATOR Leather Brogues

Being just under 6ft and someone who likes to blend into the background. I find heels can be more of a nuisance and makes me stand out a little more than i desire. Hence i often like to opt for flats or low heels. These brogues are perfect and look super comfy.

 

 Armani Jeans Ombre Sleeveless Blouse

Last but certainly not least is this Armani Ombre blouse. I can imagine wearing this with denim shorts or a white skirt. It would be rather fabulous with an array of accessories too. 

So that's my wishlist, although there is so much more i could add to it. I must refrain so i can prepare dinner for my hoard! :)

My Glass Cabochon test.

I am sorry for the delay in uploading some photographs of my progress with the Glass Cabochons. In my defense it's been a rather hectic week. I am still awaiting the chains and e6000 glue but i have attempted ten so far. Out of the ten i am unhappy with three of them and they will need to soaked and redone. I think this was a case of me rushing and not pressing down firmly enough. I chose to use quotes as i think they will look rather nice when i have fully completed them and i do love a good quote. I am sorry in advance for the poor quality of the photographs. I will aim to rectify this by the weekend and upload some better ones. Some of these were photographed before i sanded them, hence you will see the overlap on these images.

Project of the week

My project of the week is glass dome cabochon necklaces, I have been looking at some youtube tutorials which have been really useful. I purchased some pendants for them on Ebay. I chose to get them from China so they took a little while to arrive but they are really nice quality and have trees on the reverse. I want to put some quotes inside them, though i am a little concerned as i have an inkjet printer and apparently there can be issues with the image when using inkjet.Hopefully all will go well if i leave the image to dry for a day or two. I purchased glass domes and the self sealing ones. Stupidly though the self sealing one are the wrong size so i will need to purchase more pendants in the correct size for them. I love this type of crafting as you can create something really unique.

When i have completed the ones i am working on, i will upload some photographs. For those interested in this type of crafting i have included one of the more useful Youtube tutorials that i have watched.

Upcycled- My First Furniture Project complete

I thought i would quickly upload a photo of the bedside cabinet that i have now finished. It's not perfect but it does look much better than when i started. (Though in honesty that wouldn't be that hard!)

Turn something old into something new.

Today i was busy turning something old into something new.

I had an old wooden bedside table to play with and this is what i have done with it so far. P.s. The sanding down took the most effort but it is amazingly quick to turn something old and dreadful into something pretty and eye-catching.

It's still not finished as i am plan to add clouds, but i will upload a photograph when it is totally finished sometime later in the week. However as you can see...my daughter couldn't wait till i had finished to use it.

Farewell Peaches

Today i can't help but notice the net is swarming with news that Peaches Geldof apparently passed away due to a heroin overdose. Friends are sharing the news on Facebook and people are tweeting about it on twitter. Comments a couple of weeks ago were mainly about how awful people thought it was that she had died so young and how lovely she appeared to be and what a good mother she was.This seems to be confirmed with the daily Instagram photographs of her happy children that she updated her followers with. Yet today the comments seem to be about how selfish people think she was and how people have no sympathy with her. This last part puzzles me as what good is sympathy to her? She has gone.


There are several things said in interviews that seem to show Peaches held a deep sadness within her and I am sure her friends and family with hindsight can probably now see the signs that she wasn't in the best of places emotionally. In an interview she spoke about having to go to school the day after her mother died and how they were all supposed to just get on with it. There was no mention of grief counseling and she spoke about the sadness that she felt about her dad not being more present in her sons lives.

For whatever faults her mother had. Paula Yates when in a good place emotionally seemed like she was a doting and loving mother and to lose that deep love of a parent so suddenly and under those circumstances must have been crushing at such a young age. Even more so when the seedy press seemed to enjoy ripping apart her mother after her death. Her father no doubt found the death of Paula extremely hard too. Bringing up the girls while dealing with his own grief. He no doubt just dealt with things the best way he could at the time.


Then when Peaches went through a wild stage you then had the press comparing her to her mother, that too must have been hard to deal with. Maybe, However silly it seems to those who have never experienced being in a low place, Peaches thought she was destined for this tragic end of her life?
It appeared she thought that having children and a loving husband would heal her...I am sure for some part it did but when we lose someone we care about so deeply, that piece of our heart never really heals. So we just find ways to cope, to lessen the pain and if we are lucky we get grief counseling to help us learn to gradually let go of the sadness and continue our lives while holding our loved ones memory close. For Peaches it seemed as if the pain never really lessened, she just became good at hiding it.
So let's not judge the dead for not being able to come to terms with the loss of a loved one.


Rich or Poor, Depression doesn't discriminate.


Let's just hope the press can leave her husband and boys in peace and that when they get older if they ever feel swamped by sadness that they will get the help and support that they need.



Farewell Peaches.
   


 I measure every grief... by Emily Dickinson

I measure every grief I meet
With analytic eyes;
I wonder if it weighs like mine,
Or has an easier size.

I wonder if they bore it long,
Or did it just begin?
I could not tell the date of mine,
It feels so old a pain.

I wonder if it hurts to live,
And if they have to try,
And whether, could they choose between,
They would not rather die.

I wonder if when years have piled--
Some thousands--on the cause
Of early hurt, if such a lapse
Could give them any pause;

Or would they go on aching still
Through centuries above,
Enlightened to a larger pain
By contrast with the love.

The grieved are many, I am told;
The reason deeper lies,--
Death is but one and comes but once
And only nails the eyes.

There's grief of want, and grief of cold,--
A sort they call 'despair,'
There's banishment from native eyes,
In sight of native air.

And though I may not guess the kind
Correctly yet to me
A piercing comfort it affords
In passing Calvary,

To note the fashions of the cross
Of those that stand alone
Still fascinated to presume
That some are like my own.



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